From Limiting Beliefs to Liberated Living

Psychologists say 95% of everything we do—every thought, choice, reaction, and emotion—comes from the subconscious mind. Only about 5% of our lives are driven by our conscious awareness.

That means most of what runs us… we don’t even know is running us.

Our subconscious is like a vast internal hard drive, quietly recording every experience, emotion, and piece of programming we absorb, especially from birth to around seven years old. In those formative years, we look to our parents and caregivers for cues: How do I need to behave to receive loving care? What gets me in trouble? What do I need to do in order to feel a sense of belonging?

Our young minds absorb everything—values, fears, beliefs—without discernment. “Be kind.” “Don’t steal.” “Work hard.” Many of these serve us beautifully. But others—subtle, inherited, unquestioned—become invisible roadblocks in our adult lives.

These hand-me-down beliefs shape how we view money, relationships, success, and our self-worth. They live not only in our thoughts but in our bodies. They affect us on a cellular level—tightening our chests, shortening our breath, dimming our vitality, and often have us limping for decades.

So how do we begin to transform the patterns that quietly limit our joy?

We start by looking at the area of our lives where we feel most stuck—that recurring frustration or self-doubt. And then we approach it not with judgment, but with curiosity. 

Ask yourself:

• What might I believe to be true that keeps recreating this pattern?
• Where did that belief come from?
• Is it even mine?

Then start to collect evidence to the contrary. Begin to notice moments that challenge the old story. With awareness, compassion, and repetition, transformation begins.

Because every one of us on this planet is not meant to merely survive—we are meant to thrive.

Learning to Receive

For much of my life, my pattern was simple: giving felt easy, receiving felt uncomfortable. Somewhere deep down, I’d absorbed the message that receiving was selfish, indulgent, even a little shameful. Giving was “good.” Receiving was “bad.”

It wasn’t that I couldn’t receive; I just had an internal limit—a ceiling. I remember visiting friends and feeling guilty if I stayed more than three nights. By day four, I was sure it (I) was “too much.”

Then I was fortunate to have a life-changing chapter: six months on the road with my husband, Abie. We’re both givers by nature, but he didn’t share that same subconscious guilt around receiving. During those months, we were welcomed into the homes of family and friends who insisted we stay—sometimes for five, six, even seven nights.

And something shifted.

I began to witness their genuine joy in hosting us: the laughter over long dinners, the hugs at the doorway, the warmth of connection. I could feel the pleasure they took in giving. Slowly, a new truth began to take root: receiving is also an act of giving.

When I receive with gratitude, I give others the joy of generosity.

That’s how belief transformation happens—through awareness and embodied presence. You don’t wait until you “believe differently” to act differently. You act first, in alignment with the new truth—and the belief begins to follow.

Every time I said yes to another night, accepted another meal, or allowed myself to simply enjoy being cared for, I was reprogramming my subconscious. Rewriting the story. Expanding my capacity to receive love, support, and abundance.

And that, truly, changed my life experience.

So I invite you to pause for a moment and ask yourself:

• What limiting belief has quietly (or not so quietly) shaped my life?
• What new, more empowering belief could I begin to practice today?

Maybe it’s “I have to do it all myself” shifting into “It’s safe to be supported.”
Maybe it’s “I’m too much” softening into “My presence is a gift.”

Remember, the subconscious can be re-written. Every conscious act of courage, kindness, and self-trust is a new line of code.

And as you rewrite those stories, you’ll discover what I did: you are not broken. You’re simply becoming aware of what’s always been true — that you are worthy of love, abundance, and peace, just as you are.

With ❤️ from my heart to yours,

Liz