The Moon Is Always Whole (And So Are You and Me)

We just had a few nights of the most magnificent, full Harvest super moon in Georgia, where I live. I love to go moon gazing when it’s a full moon, and this one did not disappoint. Some nights the moon looks like this past full moon, huge and bright. And, of course, other nights, it’s a thin sliver in the sky. But here’s the truth I come back to again and again: the moon is always full. What we see—or don’t see—depends on where we’re standing and how the light is cast. Nothing about the moon’s wholeness changes. Only our view of it does.

I heard this analogy once a long time ago, and it really stayed with me. That’s us, too.

We are whole. Even when we feel like a sliver. Even when we choose to reveal only a crescent to the world. Our essence—our wisdom, tenderness, fire, edges, grace—is intact. The art is in discerning how much of that light we want to share and with whom. Not as a mask or a defense, but as a conscious choice that protects our freedom and nourishes our expansion.

The Sacred Difference Between Hiding and Choosing

Hiding is fueled by fear. Choosing is fueled by self-trust.

Hiding sounds like: If they knew the real me, I’d be rejected.
Choosing sounds like: My truth is precious, and I decide how and where I reveal it.

One contracts the nervous system; the other regulates it. One builds walls; the other draws boundaries. The moon doesn’t apologize for her phases. She’s not performing. She’s syncing with cosmic rhythm, revealing what’s right for the moment. You and I get to do the same.

We often confuse phases with brokenness. When we’re in an inward season, it’s tempting to label ourselves as “off” or “less than.” But wholeness doesn’t mean constant visibility. It means integrity with yourself—alignment between your inner light and your outer expression.

Discernment Is a Love Practice

I teach my clients that discernment is a profound form of self-love. It says, I am worth curating my energetic ecosystem.

Who sees the full moon of your life? The people who can meet it with reverence, reciprocity, and responsibility. Who receives a crescent? Those still earning trust or those with whom less is simply healthier.

This is not about being guarded. It’s about honoring the capacity of your own nervous system, honoring timing, and honoring the sacredness of your story. When we over-share to be approved, we leak power. When we under-share from fear, we starve intimacy. Discernment lets us offer the appropriate radiance for the moment.

Permission to Be Selective

You are not required to be accessible to everyone all the time. You don’t owe your unfiltered interior to every room you enter, every comment section, or every casual acquaintance. Your story is medicine—and the right medicine requires the right dosage, at the right time, for the right people. This is self-leadership. This is sovereignty.

And yes, sometimes you’ll misjudge. You’ll shine a little too brightly in a room that isn’t safe, or you’ll stay quiet when your soul wanted to speak. I’ve been on both sides of that experience many times. That’s okay. Like the moon, you’ll try again tomorrow. You are allowed to evolve your boundaries as you grow and continue to develop.

When you treat your wholeness as a non-negotiable and your phases as sacred, a few beautiful shifts happen:

• You stop performing and start presencing. You inhabit yourself instead of auditioning for approval.
• Your relationships deepen. The right people feel honored by your trust; the wrong people drift, making space for true resonance.
• Your energy stabilizes. Without the leak of overexposure or the clamp of self-censorship, your nervous system exhale becomes your baseline.
• Your dreams get bolder. When your light isn’t constantly defended or diluted, you have more to pour into what truly matters.

A Closing Blessing

Tonight, if the sky is clear where you are, step outside for a minute. Look up. Whatever the moon appears to be, whisper to yourself: I am whole.

Let that truth settle in your bones. Decide, with love, how you’ll share your light today—how much, with whom, and in what spirit. Not to please. Not to hide. But to honor your freedom and your expansion.

Like the moon, you are not less when you show less. You are simply wise.

Shine, beautifully—and on purpose.